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National Day is a major waste of time (depending how you see it). Despite all the free starhub channels (I was indulging myself in ALL the lifestyle channels because I can't stand not watching Gordon Ramsay for even a day), it gets bored eventually. Hmmmm so I'm here trying to find some entertainment online and within twenty minutes I have finished clicking all the webpages that need to be seen, emails cleared, facebook pokes done. I can't even go out today. Imagine all the human traffic... and I will get irritated if I see everyone dresses in red and white but I don't.
If you still remember the little post I did out of boredom listing the ten kind of guys that girls would not date, I am here to complete the list. I'll try to make it sound as convincing as possible even though it might still contain some degree of biasness. There could be alot more significant reasons as to why guys would not choose to date girls like this as compared to outright clear reasons like bitchy, materialistic etc so I will put myself in a guy's perspective and also gather-the-complains-from-all-my-guyfriends and come out with a classic top ten list of girls that guys would not want to date ohhh yeahhhh
1. Never try to (over) impress
It's not anyone's fault if you are trying to impress the other party, be it the guy or the girl but if you ever try to overdo it, loopholes will definitely surface. This would not only cause you a relationship but also leave a bad impression of you (doesn't really matter if the guy ditches you, you don't give a fuck anymore) For example, you might want to dress up for your date by wearing this super high heels just to elongate your legs but ended up having blisters all over your feet. Now, you ended up walking awkwardly or worst still, refuse to walk. Your new shoes might certainly leave him an impression but after seeing you fought a battle with that pair of heels and lost, he might see you as someone who wore that just to impress him. Not good. Or pretending to be someone who is good at eating spicy stuffs just because he said he loves everything with spice when the slightest spice could actually cause you a day at the restroom. Don't do everything just for the sake of boys because they will know it's all for them. Or worst still, make them think that you are just good at impressing.
2. It's not like you know it all
Sadly, this is also somewhat tied to the first point. Women generally like to impress. But for this kind of impression would definitely be much more fatal than the first one because he might actually expose you and your well-polished acting skills. This would usually apply if you are dating guys who are much more knowledgeable than you (no pun intended, really just more well-read or whatsoever) and you try too hard by "acting" like you know it all. He will find out eventually because he is smarter than you are. So never take that risk.
3. Don't make him choose
For what I have known, guys hate to make decisions. It's obviously irritating if you keep pressing them to decide what to eat for lunch and that is why they will always throw the question at you first. Be decisive or suggest a few (read: A FEW) places if you want to discuss. And never ask them to choose between their bros/mom and you. Yeah, they would probably say it's you because that's the political correct answer and we do take liars in anyway.
4. Dress like a champion
You know exactly how the guys like to compare their wives to their cars. And so if your boyfriend's car is black and shiny and he just couldn't stop complimenting it, you have to beat that damn car. And the solution to it is totally idiot-proof. Just dress like a trophy. Dress like you win it all. If you can present yourself well, I'm quite sure you will get to know more of his bros and his dark life. I can still remember how one of my guy friends saw another of my guy friend's ex dressing like a disaster. That damn incident happened two years back and he is still talking about it. Also, know when to dress up and dress down. Dress accordingly.
5. Privacy do matters
If it's possible, every single girl in the world would want to know where their boyfriends are heading to, who they are meeting, what's in their pc, and also in that phone. But everyone should be entitled to their own fair share of freedom, and peace. Don't spam him with texts when he's out with his friends or run through that call list in his phone. Let him know that he can drink with his friends in peace without having to promise you to be home by 3am and you would never check on him (with that intention of checking) even though you know the passwords. Make him realise he's dating an angel.
6. Never humiliate him in the public
Most guys have big egos and you should probably thank your lucky stars if he's one of those guys that help you carry your bags when you are out with him. (though I have no idea what's the point of doing so) But never never humilate him in the public because afterall he's also a man so at least give him the basic respect (not saying that he has the rights to humilate you in the public), even when you feel like giving him a punch in the face for making you so mad. Unless you found out that he's that motherfucker who have been cheating on you all along, make sure you pull him to where the crowd is before hitting him continuously with that bag he has been carrying for you.
7. Hygiene is one big issue
Yes you know how hygiene is one big issue for the girls. We have so much things to care about. So make sure you never miss out anything. Guys do notice and I'm sure you don't want them to point them out to you. Don't let small things ruin your big happiness!
8. Be independent (or at least pretend)
People always start judging on first dates so if you are caught up with that who-should-pay-for-the-first-meal situation, always go on dutch. (although personally I would think it's courtesy for the guy to offer) Actually most guys are conscious about this too (idk why, that's what my guy friends told me) so going on dutch is always good. Subsequently if they offer to pay, never take that for granted. Offer to pay for movies/drinks later on or alternate that paying system would mean ALOT. This would show that you are independent and does not take him for granted.
9. Control your emotions
Let's say if girls are 100% emotional beings, men would probably only stand 1%? It's one of our innate qualities so the only solution is to control. You can't force yourself to stop being emotional. Just like how when happiness struck you, our emotions flow like rollar coaster. Talk about those endless emotional tweets or the countless tumblr quotes you have reblogged. And controlling your emotions is critical. Guys don't get why you get so upset over a small quarrel. Don't think by breaking down every now and then is the perfect solution to all problems.
As long as they don't get it, it will only irritate the hell out of them.
10. Don't force him to commit
This might sound ridiculous but if it's emotionally and physically right to cheat on you, you can't be the only one roaming in his room. It's frustrating for guys if you keep on pressing for commitments. You can put it up as a casual discussion (but the atmosphere shouldn't be intense). It's heartbreaking but dating you for five years doesn't mean I have to marry you. Some guys just don't see why marriage is necessary. They just don't get it.
All these are solely based on my own point of view so please don't judge!
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